Single & Sexy   Leave a comment

A study involving 2000 people over a seven year period, by researchers in Finland, showed that singles enjoyed more orgasms and were able to reach orgasm faster than those in a relationship!

Happy love-making.


One Night Stand   Leave a comment

Researchers at McMaster University in Canada tell us that men with deep voices are more attractive to women – this is because it is assumed they are more manly.

However, despite being drawn to such men, women thought they would be only suitable for short-term flings as very masculine men were considered to be more likely to cheat.

So, if you are blessed with a deep voice, you may need to work on your skills of devotion and character if you don’t want to wind up a lonely old man! You know where to come if you need help in this area.

Happy love-making.


Come together   Leave a comment

We all agree that to come together is the nicest thing. We also agree that all too frequently the man comes too soon or much quicker than his partner. Best advice I’ve heard recently is for the woman to concentrate on coming as fast as she can while the man holds off as best he can.

Ladies, don’t worry about getting there before him, there’s nothing more exciting for a man than for him to sense his woman is coming – he’ll shoot same time as you – I promise.

Happy love-making.


Got Libido Problems?   Leave a comment

I’ve always said that talking it through, indeed talking any aspect of sex through with your partner, is the best way to avoid a problem, or avoid an existing problem getting worse.
Now Austrian research published in the journal Fertility and Sterility reported that in a study of 80 women with sexual dysfunction, keeping a diary and talking to their partner about their sex life was found to be as effective as taking a nasal spray of oxytocin (the ‘cuddle’ hormone; you can read more about hormones and supplements in the chapter ‘The chemistry of Love and Lust’).
For those who find it difficult to find the right words, or spot the right moment, keeping a diary could be a useful aide-memoire when the appropriate time presents itself. But try initiating a chat about that concern you have, or a desire you wish to fulfil, by using humour – try smiling for a start! A naughty smile can break any barrier.
For a whole lot more about getting down to the subject with your loved-one, and vocalising in perfect harmony, see if you can discover what helps you most in the chapter, ‘The importance of communication.’
I refer, of course, to Exploring Sex, Love and Lust, by Clive Peters, available online, as an eBook, or softcover to keep handy by the bed.
Happy love-making.

Want to stay looking younger?   Leave a comment

Researchers at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital suspect DHEA – one of the hormones released when you make love – increases collagen production, reducing wrinkles.

People in their 40s who had sex three times a week or more were judged to look seven to 13 years younger than their actual age.

The answer: Have sex more frequently, and stay looking younger.

Happy love-making.


Premature Ejaculation   Leave a comment

This spoils the main event – can be very depressing – and affects 25% of men in the UK.

New research by a medical team in Istanbul, and published in the journal Andrologia, revealed that all those men who climaxed too quickly had one thing in common: they all had significantly lower levels of vitamin B12 than those guys who could last longer.

Scientists stressed more research is needed but one theory is that B12 bolsters levels of neurotransmitters thought to play a key role in controlling ejaculation.

How can you boost your levels? Off-the-shelf yeast extract called ‘Marmite’ is one of the richest sources of this vitamin. A daily dollop is worth a try – keep it up – if you’ll pardon the expression. Love it or hate it, spread on toast will give you a good start to the day. Every day to maintain that essential level.

If you want to learn more about the chemistry of love and sex, treat yourself to a copy of Exploring Sex, Love and Lust. You, and your lover, will not regret it.

Happy love-making.


Sex Improves with Age   Leave a comment

Sex does improve with age – especially for women.

Researchers attending the annual conference of the North American Menopause Society held in Orlando, Florida, interviewed 39 women attending, with some enjoying sex more than ever, despite having it less often.

These women told the researchers from the University of Pittsburgh they were more confident than when they were younger. They were better at communicating their needs to their partner and willing to broach delicate subjects, such as the use of Viagra. Some had adapted their lovemaking to compensate for age and changes to their bodies caused by the menopause.

They tended to spend more time on fore-play, try new positions, and put more emphasis on intimacy than passion.

Lead author Holly Thomas said: ‘One of the most enlightening findings of this study was the large number of women who had successfully adapted to any negative changes by modifying their expectations regarding sexual activity, putting more emphasis on the emotional and intimacy aspects of sex, or adapting the sex acts themselves.’

Denise Knowles, a sex therapist with the marriage guidance charity Relate, said: ‘Maybe we are more confident and have more of a what-the-heck attitude.’

Dr Pam Spurr, a relationship expert and agony aunt, said: ‘There is a lot of good news in this study. With age, women gain more wisdom about their sexual responsiveness and pleasure. Such self-knowledge helps rekindle the spark that might have been lost.’

Such wisdom is expressed, and illustrated, as well as researched and published in an easy to read, and sometimes humorous way, in Exploring Sex, Love and Lust, by Clive Peters. You know you deserve a copy to refer to – and continue to enjoy the best sex ever, no matter what your age.

Happy love-making.