A study involving 2000 people over a seven year period, by researchers in Finland, showed that singles enjoyed more orgasms and were able to reach orgasm faster than those in a relationship!
I’ve always said that talking it through, indeed talking any aspect of sex through with your partner, is the best way to avoid a problem, or avoid an existing problem getting worse.
Now Austrian research published in the journal Fertility and Sterility reported that in a study of 80 women with sexual dysfunction, keeping a diary and talking to their partner about their sex life was found to be as effective as taking a nasal spray of oxytocin (the ‘cuddle’ hormone; you can read more about hormones and supplements in the chapter ‘The chemistry of Love and Lust’).
For those who find it difficult to find the right words, or spot the right moment, keeping a diary could be a useful aide-memoire when the appropriate time presents itself. But try initiating a chat about that concern you have, or a desire you wish to fulfil, by using humour – try smiling for a start! A naughty smile can break any barrier.
For a whole lot more about getting down to the subject with your loved-one, and vocalising in perfect harmony, see if you can discover what helps you most in the chapter, ‘The importance of communication.’
I refer, of course, to Exploring Sex, Love and Lust, by Clive Peters, available online, as an eBook, or softcover to keep handy by the bed.
Researchers at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital suspect DHEA – one of the hormones released when you make love – increases collagen production, reducing wrinkles.
People in their 40s who had sex three times a week or more were judged to look seven to 13 years younger than their actual age.
The answer: Have sex more frequently, and stay looking younger.