Pillow Talk   67 comments

A man’s personal levels of testosterone can show in the way he whispers ‘sweet nothings’ in his lover’s ears after making love. Those with high levels tend to be reluctant to indulge in chitchat, and those with lower levels are keener, and better at it.

Researchers for a study led by the University of Connecticut described how post-sex communication may serve ‘an important role in not only sustaining a satisfying sexual relationship between partners, but may also contribute to more general feelings of relationship satisfaction and closeness’.

The possible risks of disclosure include ‘loss of control, embarrassment, hurt or rejection’, the researchers say in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. The benefits may include ‘increased intimacy, closeness and satisfaction’. The researchers went on to say: ‘Not only does the current study contribute to researchers’ theoretical understanding of sexual communication, privacy boundaries, and biology, but it could also have broader practical implications for romantic relationships.’

But we already knew this, didn’t we? In the chapter entitled The Importance of Communication in my book Exploring Sex, Love and Lust, you’ll find all the answers you need for the perfect sexual relationship – written in an easy-going style, and plain English!

Happy love-making.





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