Archive for the ‘Sex Lessons’ Category

Don’t Do This   Leave a comment

We fellas often make the mistake of thinking that females find seeing a nude male as sexually stimulating as we find seeing a nude woman. This is not so.

Even worse, for a woman to see an otherwise nude man wearing only his socks is the biggest turn off of all.

If you forget all the other rules, remember this one. Don’t do it.

Happy love-making

Clive

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Worry-Free Orgasms   Leave a comment

Here’s some good news – women do not need to be totally relaxed to enjoy sex.

You don’t need to ‘switch off’ from life to achieve orgasm. The latest study, by Dr Nan Wise, a US neuroscientist, involved ten women experiencing orgasm while their brain activity was followed by MRI scanner. They observed that brain activity in regions responsible for movement, senses, memory and emotions, all gradually increased during the lead-up to orgasm, when activity then peaked and lowered again.

The latest study discovered that the female orgasm is truly ‘mind-blowing’, as it activates the same part of the brain involved in ‘out-of-body experiences.’

Dr Wise, whose research is published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, said of the findings: ‘We found no evidence of deactivation of brain regions during orgasm,’ and went on to say ‘This suggests that the brain does not need to be switched off for a woman to experience orgasm.’

She also said: ‘I don’t believe women have to be worry-free at the time, they just need to focus on the sensation of what is happening. Then this will essentially take over as what they are focusing on.’

Here’s the technical bit: The study, reported in New Scientist magazine, also found a part of the brain, called the dorsal raphe nucleus, becomes more active during orgasm. This is involved with releasing serotonin, which can dampen pain, explaining why women may be less likely to notice being in pain during climax.

Dr Wise said: ‘When you think of it, an out-of-body experience is a state of altered consciousness. And you also get to a point in orgasm where you are taken completely out of yourself.’

So no worries! Just enjoy your love-making.

Clive.

Want to get pregnant?   Leave a comment

Research shows that lying on your back after sex won’t increase a woman’s chances of conceiving.

In a study last year by VU University Medical Centre, Amsterdam, women having artificial insemination were told to stay in bed for 15 minutes, or get up immediately – the latter became pregnant more easily!

The researchers said there was no reason to stay in bed for longer than it takes to ‘get your breath back.’

You can read how fast sperm swim and how long it takes to travel from the man’s ejaculation to penetrating the female egg, and all the struggles it has to face on its way, in Exploring Sex, Love and Lust.

Happy love-making.

Clive

Sex Questions and Answers   Leave a comment

Want more from me? Put ‘Clive Peters, Author‘ into your search engine and see the listings.

Thinking of buying? Amazon, and others of course, but also UK’s biggest online bookstore. Here’s a secure link: https://www.waterstones.com/author/clive-peters/439825

Watch out for Zelda’s (agony aunt and relationships counselor) recommendation for my book, Exploring Sex, Love and Lust, in YOU magazine this next Sunday – the mag comes free with The Mail on Sunday.

Happy love-making.

Clive.

Stay Positive – Stay Sexy   Leave a comment

A good reason to stay positive as you age:

Researchers at the University of Waterloo in Canada interviewed 1,170 people in their 40s and 70s about their attitudes to ageing and sex, and found that those with less positive views on getting older, enjoyed and desired sex less.

This was reported in The Journal of Sex Research. So, if you want to keep it up right into old age, stay positive!

Happy love-making.

Clive.

Dame Helen Mirren   Leave a comment

Did you read Dame Helen’s little bit of home-spun philosophy, when she was addressing young graduates with one of her top tips for life?

“Don’t confuse sex with love. Love generally lasts more than two minutes.”

Advice rarely gets any better than that!

Happy love-making.

Clive 

Mothers and Sex   Leave a comment

Mum really DOES know best!

Dr Laura Widman, of the Teen Health Lab at North Carolina State University analysed research of 25,000 teenagers over 30 years, about discussing with parents contraception and risky sexual conduct.

It is ‘the chat’ dads, and teenagers, dread most. But the research suggests that those who did talk it over with a parent made them more likely to practise safe sex – and it’s better still if done by Mum.

Under 25s make up more than six in ten chlamydia cases in the UK, more than 140,000 annually.

Particularly among mothers and girls, ‘communication with parents’ has a protective effect on adolescent contraceptive and condom use.¬†The results are published in JAMA Pediatrics.

There is another way – and you know what I mean – my book even has a chapter devoted to ‘Communication’, to help Mum or Dad, as well another on ‘Conception and Contraception’. So you’ll know all about it – Mums too!

Happy love-making.

Clive Peters, author.